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#More mature than before #The process of expressing and resolving desires #Failure is the result of ability
I personally realized something during this gap year.
-Cambodia medical volunteer work treating children that anyone can do / Yang Hyowon gap-year tribe gapper / 4-week gap year |
# In the end, only actions produce visible results and remain as fact.
A realization I had today while using the internet: people judge and evaluate others far too easily. They speak of, hate, and like someone as if the visible part is their whole.If you become accustomed to these evaluations and judgments, you unconsciously start to become someone for whom what is visible is all there is.
I once saw a case where a father slapped the cheek of a teenage child who had been smoking. The child learns instantly. No—it''s mostly learned. ''I must never smoke again,'' or ''I hate my father; I''ll keep smoking.'' Either they continue repeating the problematic behavior out of defiance, or they recognize it''s a problem and stop repeating it.The immediate outcomes differ, but in the end the child ends up with a bigger problem, not just the act of smoking itself.
What is learned is not ''I quit because smoking is harmful to my body,'' but ''I quit because my father hit me.''Despite smoking being harmful to my body, I might continue because I resent my father.The child couldn''t see their true unmet desires or personal problems. If such a stage is skipped and that mindset takes hold, even as an adult they won''t be able to make choices for themselves.The choice wasn''t even for themselves, and the result also feels like it belongs to someone else.They were taught by others that ''it''s not yours,'' and as a result maybe it isn''t. That''s how I was taught.
''Is this a choice for me?'' ''Can I take responsibility for the outcome?'' No — you must think like that every moment as you grow.
You must be aware of yourself moment by moment. You should be able to put your own life first and love it. The choice is mine. The result is mine. You should grow into a strong self not dependent on others.
I suddenly feel joy. My life. My choice. My result. I have desires, set goals, act, do my best, succeed. Fail. Repeat.
By having desires, my life can become special. By putting them into action, my life becomes special. Because it''s my desire, my choice, and my result, it''s special. There is no impossible. ''Lucky them — it''s possible because it''s that person.'' That''s true: it was possible because it was that person.
Let''s focus on what I want to do right now — my desires.Set a goal, act on it, and do your best. Success and failure are possible because it''s you — then retry or choose a different desire and act.
Envy — my imperfection hidden behind it. And let''s focus on our desires.
Is it truly for me?
# For prospective participants
I felt through this activity that time cannot be turned back, and the present is the only time to achieve the best results.The determination about how I should spend my second gap year was a result I reached through my first gap-year activity.I will start by saying that I am grateful for this opportunity and for every moment.
My next gap year will be about expressing myself to the world through action rather than thought; I want to actively overcome the fear of new things and, even if reckless, go through a bold process of self-exploration that will allow me to create new options and broader paths that I didn''t have before.
Because this is a rare opportunity, I will minimize overthinking, try to act on even small desires to resolve them, and focus on exploring myself in the process.
In other words, focus on your present awareness and...be faithful to your desires and instincts. I will gain a lot, and above all, it will be enjoyable.
Also, I personally felt something from this gap year.
Life is a process of expressing and resolving my desires; in that process we succeed and fail, set goals through desire, and by following these milestones we produce results with our own abilities, walking toward them and creating outcomes of success and failure.What is important is that through this process we have become more mature than before.
Failure is by no means the same as being at fault. It is merely the result of my current ability. It is by no means just an ordinary failure. It is my failure. From this result we sometimes discover other possibilities and attempt again. Let''s accept that the challenge itself, and the outcomes of failure and success, are results that I—up to now—was able to produce.
Remember, do not be crushed by failure and do not become arrogant from success. Everything is a reasonable result of the ''me'' up to now, and we observe.
Do not blame your current abilities, belittle yourself, or make yourself suffer because of the frustration of failure.Let''s distinguish between desire and greed. within one''s means excessively anything covet or seek to enjoy that the heart/mind is greed.. the present me denying in the state of that more than what yearning for the present me to have being able to not about regarding frustration within pain inflict let''s not. about success regarding with arrogance the present me regarding expectations excessively raise let''s not.
in the present let''s focus. the present As myself current me acknowledging loving so the present joyfully if (I) live that''s enoughit is.
# To my surprise, I realized that the one who held the prejudice was actually me.
''I want to fit in too.'' ''I also want to get close, but I''m afraid to make the first move.'' ''Do I really have to become close? This is stressing me out.''By chance, an opportunity arose to communicate with them and I was able to join them. AndI realized that, contrary to my expectations, I was the one with the prejudice.Is this the only thing I''m misunderstanding about myself?I began to inquire into the truth about myself.
First, why was I stressed about fitting in? It began with a desire to become close to them. The moment I recognized that desire, fear arose. ''What if they don''t want to be close to me?'' ''What if they come to dislike me?''Because I wanted it so much, I was all the more afraid.While delaying choices and actions to satisfy my desire, I did a lot of thinking and there seemed to be too many risks.
''I don''t speak English well.'' ''I''m the only Asian.''I soon rationalized my fear by telling myself that I, being so different from them, couldn''t fit in.Thinking about the impossibility made it all so exhausting. ''Ah, I guess I don''t like socializing with strangers.'' ''I''ll just enjoy myself alone and go.''
Only after spending time with them did I realize: it''s enjoyable.I like getting along with people. That was my original desire. It was a moment when things I had taken for truth became doubtful.
# I''m grateful that I was able to recognize my true problem today.
I inevitably lack confidence in myself. Because of fear, unless someone around me pushes me, I cannot choose or act on my own — it was I who had mistakenly thought I simply couldn''t do it.
Only now have I realized that this was a problem of ''self-esteem.''The fear of ''What if they don''t respect or understand me?'' The present, that is,I trusted and loved the illusory ''me'' recognized by others more than the real ''me.''I felt my individuality as ''different'' and perceived that difference negatively. I recognized my unfulfilled desires as weaknesses. So my true feelings, which I couldn''t express and was ashamed of. At that time, my low self-esteem was the problem.
I had believed that the thoughts and choices I made to show myself to others — both the process and the results — were all ''me,'' were the truth.I am grateful that only now I can recognize my true problem.
Respect and understanding are theirs to give, and I must be able to respect, understand, and love myself. I must be able to make and accept choices and outcomes as myself. In this way, I should firmly root my sense of self so that I am not dependent on others.
I was able to have a lot of time to reflect on my issues. Surely, during my second gap year, through exotic experiences in a foreign country, I will be able to discover another self,I will be able to seize the opportunity to make different choices.
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I personally realized something during this gap year.
-Cambodia medical volunteer work treating children that anyone can do / Yang Hyowon gap-year tribe gapper / 4-week gap year |
# In the end, only actions produce visible results and remain as fact.
A realization I had today while using the internet: people judge and evaluate others far too easily. They speak of, hate, and like someone as if the visible part is their whole.If you become accustomed to these evaluations and judgments, you unconsciously start to become someone for whom what is visible is all there is.
I once saw a case where a father slapped the cheek of a teenage child who had been smoking. The child learns instantly. No—it''s mostly learned. ''I must never smoke again,'' or ''I hate my father; I''ll keep smoking.'' Either they continue repeating the problematic behavior out of defiance, or they recognize it''s a problem and stop repeating it.The immediate outcomes differ, but in the end the child ends up with a bigger problem, not just the act of smoking itself.
What is learned is not ''I quit because smoking is harmful to my body,'' but ''I quit because my father hit me.''Despite smoking being harmful to my body, I might continue because I resent my father.The child couldn''t see their true unmet desires or personal problems. If such a stage is skipped and that mindset takes hold, even as an adult they won''t be able to make choices for themselves.The choice wasn''t even for themselves, and the result also feels like it belongs to someone else.They were taught by others that ''it''s not yours,'' and as a result maybe it isn''t. That''s how I was taught.
''Is this a choice for me?'' ''Can I take responsibility for the outcome?'' No — you must think like that every moment as you grow.
You must be aware of yourself moment by moment. You should be able to put your own life first and love it. The choice is mine. The result is mine. You should grow into a strong self not dependent on others.
I suddenly feel joy. My life. My choice. My result. I have desires, set goals, act, do my best, succeed. Fail. Repeat.
By having desires, my life can become special. By putting them into action, my life becomes special. Because it''s my desire, my choice, and my result, it''s special. There is no impossible. ''Lucky them — it''s possible because it''s that person.'' That''s true: it was possible because it was that person.
Let''s focus on what I want to do right now — my desires.Set a goal, act on it, and do your best. Success and failure are possible because it''s you — then retry or choose a different desire and act.
Envy — my imperfection hidden behind it. And let''s focus on our desires.
Is it truly for me?
# For prospective participants
I felt through this activity that time cannot be turned back, and the present is the only time to achieve the best results.The determination about how I should spend my second gap year was a result I reached through my first gap-year activity.I will start by saying that I am grateful for this opportunity and for every moment.
My next gap year will be about expressing myself to the world through action rather than thought; I want to actively overcome the fear of new things and, even if reckless, go through a bold process of self-exploration that will allow me to create new options and broader paths that I didn''t have before.
Because this is a rare opportunity, I will minimize overthinking, try to act on even small desires to resolve them, and focus on exploring myself in the process.
In other words, focus on your present awareness and...be faithful to your desires and instincts. I will gain a lot, and above all, it will be enjoyable.
Also, I personally felt something from this gap year.
Life is a process of expressing and resolving my desires; in that process we succeed and fail, set goals through desire, and by following these milestones we produce results with our own abilities, walking toward them and creating outcomes of success and failure.What is important is that through this process we have become more mature than before.
Failure is by no means the same as being at fault. It is merely the result of my current ability. It is by no means just an ordinary failure. It is my failure. From this result we sometimes discover other possibilities and attempt again. Let''s accept that the challenge itself, and the outcomes of failure and success, are results that I—up to now—was able to produce.
Remember, do not be crushed by failure and do not become arrogant from success. Everything is a reasonable result of the ''me'' up to now, and we observe.
Do not blame your current abilities, belittle yourself, or make yourself suffer because of the frustration of failure.Let''s distinguish between desire and greed. within one''s means excessively anything covet or seek to enjoy that the heart/mind is greed.. the present me denying in the state of that more than what yearning for the present me to have being able to not about regarding frustration within pain inflict let''s not. about success regarding with arrogance the present me regarding expectations excessively raise let''s not.
in the present let''s focus. the present As myself current me acknowledging loving so the present joyfully if (I) live that''s enoughit is.
# To my surprise, I realized that the one who held the prejudice was actually me.
''I want to fit in too.'' ''I also want to get close, but I''m afraid to make the first move.'' ''Do I really have to become close? This is stressing me out.''By chance, an opportunity arose to communicate with them and I was able to join them. AndI realized that, contrary to my expectations, I was the one with the prejudice.Is this the only thing I''m misunderstanding about myself?I began to inquire into the truth about myself.
First, why was I stressed about fitting in? It began with a desire to become close to them. The moment I recognized that desire, fear arose. ''What if they don''t want to be close to me?'' ''What if they come to dislike me?''Because I wanted it so much, I was all the more afraid.While delaying choices and actions to satisfy my desire, I did a lot of thinking and there seemed to be too many risks.
''I don''t speak English well.'' ''I''m the only Asian.''I soon rationalized my fear by telling myself that I, being so different from them, couldn''t fit in.Thinking about the impossibility made it all so exhausting. ''Ah, I guess I don''t like socializing with strangers.'' ''I''ll just enjoy myself alone and go.''
Only after spending time with them did I realize: it''s enjoyable.I like getting along with people. That was my original desire. It was a moment when things I had taken for truth became doubtful.
# I''m grateful that I was able to recognize my true problem today.
I inevitably lack confidence in myself. Because of fear, unless someone around me pushes me, I cannot choose or act on my own — it was I who had mistakenly thought I simply couldn''t do it.
Only now have I realized that this was a problem of ''self-esteem.''The fear of ''What if they don''t respect or understand me?'' The present, that is,I trusted and loved the illusory ''me'' recognized by others more than the real ''me.''I felt my individuality as ''different'' and perceived that difference negatively. I recognized my unfulfilled desires as weaknesses. So my true feelings, which I couldn''t express and was ashamed of. At that time, my low self-esteem was the problem.
I had believed that the thoughts and choices I made to show myself to others — both the process and the results — were all ''me,'' were the truth.I am grateful that only now I can recognize my true problem.
Respect and understanding are theirs to give, and I must be able to respect, understand, and love myself. I must be able to make and accept choices and outcomes as myself. In this way, I should firmly root my sense of self so that I am not dependent on others.
I was able to have a lot of time to reflect on my issues. Surely, during my second gap year, through exotic experiences in a foreign country, I will be able to discover another self,I will be able to seize the opportunity to make different choices.
Read the rest< Click
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