I tried to be a different kind of mother than my own.I try to view my children more objectively, from a third‑party perspective, and only take on the role of a supporter.I leave the choices to the children. Whatever they choose—whether they fail or give up—I encourage them to boldly shake it off and...Not holding onto regrets is my motto. -1:1 Gap Year Consulting: a time to find my drifting dream |
1. Please introduce yourself :)
Hello. I am the mother of a 10th grader and a second‑year middle schooler.
I work as a freelance content writer.
2. How did you come across the gap year program?
I learned about the gap year after watching the director''s lecture on Sebasi.
3. Was there a reason you decided to get consulting?
My eldest child is a 10th grader studying contemporary dance.
While practicing they injured their leg, and during hospitalization the doctor said continuing to dance would be too risky (it could lead to a disability).
My child and I were devastated.
If they couldn''t dance anymore, they''d have to change career paths, and as a mother I didn''t know what to say.
It was a complex concern involving transferring to an academic or vocational school, taking a leave of absence, or dropping out.
The child, despite being in pain, insisted on dancing no matter what, while I, as a mother, thought that health is the priority...
They had received five years of hospital treatment as a child and had been declared fully recovered,
and even five years later, trying to make them understand that health comes first was futile because they were so headstrong.
I felt that if we disagreed during this crucial time, our emotional rift might deepen,
so we decided to seek advice and help from an expert (CEO An Si‑jun) and went straight to Seoul—to the Gap Year program.
I''ve always had a lingering regret wishing I had had a mentor from my school days until now...
After all, a mother''s advice felt like nothing more than nagging.
My mother tended to say ''no'' more often than ''yes.''
So I tried to be a different kind of mother than my own.
I try to view my children more objectively, from a third‑party perspective, and only act as a supporter.
I leave the choices to the children. Whatever they choose—whether they fail or give up—they should boldly shake it off and not hold onto regrets,
Not holding onto regrets is my motto.
4. What was the most memorable piece of advice you received during the consulting?
“The best mentor is your mother,” he said, and...
I was told to praise my child a lot, hug them, tell them ''I love you'' and ''Mom is on your side,'' and to act as a reliable protective barrier. *^ ^ *
5After receiving the consulting, what was the first thing your daughter did?
She praises even small things enthusiastically, calls me her guardian angel, and spreads a small blanket so the two of us can hold each other tightly and sleep.
6.What changed before and after the consulting?
Almost no communication Aggressive tones toward each other Soulless responses Rebellious behavior of adolescence (the tempestuous puberty years) |
A gentle tone Also helps well with housework She developed the will to do things on her own |
7.If you had to define gap year consulting in one word, what would it be?
"Sea"
Like all waters flowing into the sea, I realized that the one side I had seen wasn''t the whole picture — there are many facets.
8. Advice you''d like to give to friends who will participate in the consulting program, or ''I recommend it to people like...''
When someone asks ''What''s your dream?'' I hope they can answer confidently and proudly instead of saying ''I don''t know'' or ''I don''t have one.'' Because no one can steal your dream, I want participants to be able to respond boldly. I would recommend it to people with a lot of insecurity and low self-confidence.
9. Now that you''ve completed the consulting, what are your plans for the future?
The phrase ''The world is wide and there is much to do'' comes to mind. I want to plan trips with the children, either domestically or abroad.
10. Finally, what is Gap Year to you?
"A spring"I want to describe it that way.
Through Gap Year it also served as a bridge for mother and child to communicate.
It relieved our thirst (fulfilled our longing) and provided life-giving spiritual support.
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