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It’s been quite a while since the new semester started. It’s already midterms time! Are you doing well this semester?

A job portal recently surveyed college students on whether they experienced ‘new semester syndrome’, and 60.7% responded that they did.

The main cause of new semester syndrome was ‘the burden of new interpersonal relationships’, which was the highest at 70.4%.
When a new semester starts, you form new relationships, such as relationships with classmates, seniors, and juniors, and relationships with new professors.
Depending on whether these interpersonal relationships are formed healthily, school life can be enjoyable or stressful.

The methods for overcoming this new semester syndrome included ‘getting along well with people’ (35.7%), ‘having a positive attitude’ (30.2%), ‘preparing thoroughly’ (18.1%), and ‘actively participating in school life’ (12.1%).

Are you forming healthy and satisfying interpersonal relationships on campus?
The burden you feel when adjusting to a new semester or new environment,
as the survey results show, can be relieved to some extent by hanging out with close friends or having a positive mindset.

However, if you can understand human relationships a little more,
wouldn’t it give you more confidence in forming new relationships?

When thinking about human relationships, the first book that comes to mind is Dale Carnegie’s ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’.
Dale Carnegie left the following famous quote about human relationships.

Be sincere and make the other person feel that they are really important to you.
Talk about topics that interest the other person.
Sometimes ask questions that require deep thought.
Praise them generously, even for small improvements.
Allow the other person to talk more than you.
Approach them with encouragement rather than criticism.
Recommend things that will make the other person happy.
Be genuinely interested in the other person.
What do all these things have in common? The answer to the question is already set, right? It’s ‘speech’. It means communication.

It’s easy to see that many students worry that they will be eliminated if they don’t participate in MT and OT drinking parties held by their school clubs.

Excessive drinking
It’s hard to leave out alcohol at college events.
In college life, there are bound to be many drinking parties.

The famous German poet Rogau said, “Friends made with alcohol, like alcohol, last only one night.”

I want to form healthy relationships through sincere communication, not friendships made with alcohol. ‘Alcohol’ is not just a ‘lubricant’, it also relieves tension and makes the atmosphere comfortable, but if you drink excessively and without restraint, it will actually cause many problems, right?